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Community Building: terms and identities
This post is to compile the terms I’ve seen in other places (a couple that I made myself) all together in one place!
Terms for female exclusive bisexual women only
- Feb - female exclusive bisexual women. Idea: could be used for those who are feminine or generally gender conforming, or it could be an umbrella term for all female exclusive bisexual women
- Iron - Idea: comes from Fe the symbol for iron, so it would be Fe (female exclusive) bisexual, and would then be iron bisexual. Could be used for those who are masculine or generally gender non conforming
- Fe - Idea: pronounced like fey, alternative for febs, another one for feminine female exclusive bisexual women
Terms for any bisexual woman
- Tombi - bisexual women who are masculine or generally gender non conforming
- Tomcat - bisexual women who are sometimes gender conforming, sometimes not
- Stag* - bisexual women who are GNC/masculine
- Doe* - bisexual women who are GC/feminine
Please reblog and add any ideas or comments you have on these, and if you know of or have thought of any others please add them!
*I’ve seen these as being intended for all wlw, but mainly for bisexual women.
whoa yeah I’ve never really thought of it this way but mainstream (liberal) feminism really is about “learning to enjoy patriarchy”
How is that?
this might be difficult to explain from scratch so to speak but liberal feminism is essentially based on the idea that femininity is devalued and generally under attack. this is opposed to 2nd wave feminism (which is what most of my feminism is routed in) which states that women are under attack and femininity is an oppressive construct intended to keep women subordinate.
the idea that it’s femininity which is under attack implies that femininity is inherent to women, and that women are oppressed for our femininity. again, this is opposed to the idea that women are oppressed with femininity.
this ends up leading to ideas like ‘masculine privilege’–butch women oppress & have power over feminine women, and butch women reject femininity due to internalized misogyny (since they’re supposedly rejecting their nature). I’ve actually been accused of the above by a liberal feminist.
2nd wave feminism would state that “masculine privilege” doesn’t exist, because masculine women are still oppressed for being women under patriarchy and are punished in various ways for rejecting femininity (the tool meant to oppress them). only male privilege exists, and masculinity is only rewarded in males.
the foundation that mainstream/pop/liberal feminism has built itself on is why there’s a huge emphasis on ‘weaponized femininity’ (think ‘eyeliner so sharp it could kill a man’), enthusiastically embracing femininity, far more sex-positivity than sex-critical discussion (leading to ideas like “criticizing porn is anti-feminist”, “criticizing bdsm is anti-feminist”, etc.), a general distrust of butch or gender non-conforming women (“trust no butch”), “feminist” articles about what type of lipsticks stay on best while giving blow-jobs (I’ve actually seen this), body-positivity that centers around ‘all body types can be beautiful’ rather than ‘women do not have to be beautiful and should not focus on it’, etc etc etc. I hope this was an ok summary even though I’ve really oversimplified the whole thing lol.
list of heroes
the woman who dated 40+ guys, got them to buy her iphones, and then sold them to buy a house
the woman who traded one singular rick and morty sauce for a car
don’t forget the woman who charged a bunch of dudes money to attend an orgy but never promised any women would be there so they all just showed up to find nothing but men
The girl on Tinder whose profile said “send me $5 and see what happens” and after they sent her money she blocked them
the girl who pretended to be a republican and got old white conservatives to fund her tuition
listen if you think someone is cool and you dig their energy you just have to tell them, because that’s the kind of stuff you remember a thousand times longer than somebody complimenting your hair or whatever. tonight I told a girl from my theory class that I like her analytical approach and she bounced back at me saying she digs my feminine energy and how she gets the vibe that, to my core, I exist to uplift women and I damn near cried. tell people what resonates about them. be real. help each other feel seen.